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balance is hard

For years I have been chasing down this unicorn called a balanced life. I wanted to be the woman who had it all. I’ve read more business books than I can count about how to get ahead at your job and break through the glass ceiling. I spent my 20s climbing the corporate ladder and putting my job first. And this was easy to do because I had a supporting husband who was doing the same thing. We both wanted successful careers and encouraged each other to do whatever it took to get that next promotion and to earn the raise. We worked the long hours, did the brutal travel and sacrificed many weekends.

Then came reality check number one. All that work wasn’t healthy. We both physically got sick. I was hospitalized with extreme dehydration and stomach ulcers and my husband started having back issues. So we added some healthy things into our life. Working out more, eating a little better and taking a little more time out for each other.

Early into my 30s came reality check number two. It came in the form of a sweet 5 lb. 11 oz. little girl. Our lives were forever changed. That first year was hard. Like, really hard. I was 50 lbs. overweight. I was chronically tired. I still wanted to get ahead in my career, but now it wasn’t as easy. If I work through the night and on the weekends, now I had a huge sacrifice in return. I was depressed and overwhelmed.

That is when my life mission to find a life of balance began. I was determined to figure out how to have it all. I WILL be the best professional, best mom and best wife at the same time. I read every article I could find about ‘work life balance.’ I started trying a bunch of methods to help with my stress and depression. I’ve done all the workouts, meditations, diets out there to get my mind and body right. And even with all my most sincere effort, I still didn’t have balance. If my body felt strong and healthy, it was because I was slacking a little bit in the wife department. If I felt like I was killing it at my mom game, it was because I wasn’t working as hard at work. Something always had to give. And that is when it hit me…

Balance is an unrealistic concept.

I changed my focus. I changed my attitude. However, I never changed my goal. I still want to be an amazing mother, loving wife and kick butt at my job, but HOW I did it changed. I adopted the Sway Life. I learned that there is no such thing as a Work Life and a Personal Life - it is just ONE LIFE. You have to learn how to move through each part with a rhythm, and love all the highs and lows, ebbs and flows that come with it. Sway Life is all about a mental shift in how you view all of your responsibilities and learn how to enjoy each day. This is what I want to share with you. I want you to experience a Sway Life.